Wednesday, January 13, 2016

Vanishing Veggie Looking Forward


So, I declared myself back and then didn't post anything.  That might happen.  I am giving myself a little more freedom to write what I want, when I want.  I do have tons of food pictures that I want to share, so fear not, it's coming.

Today, though, I just wanted to talk about the way I'm feeling about blogging in general.  I guess it's normal for me to get burned out on blogs, as I did here.  After subscribing to so many, I find myself scrolling through looking for the few ones that treat their content more like a diary.  Those are the ones I connect to.

I want this space to be a snapshot of my life, not an ideal to strive for.  My food is not perfect, my life is not flawless, and I don't always do or say the right thing.  It's my life though, and it's not brought to you by anyone but me.


All that is pretty much the same stuff I always say.  What I wanted to talk about today is something a little harder to put across for fear of being judged.  It gets pretty sickening to see vegans attacking each other for not living up to their definition of the word or showing any compassion to meat eaters.  I am married to and love deeply a meat eater, and one of the things I really enjoy is to share food with him.  Now, some of you out there may say, "Well, he should just eat vegan at home!" but it's his home too, and that's not the lifestyle he has chosen.  So, after the better part of a decade eating separate things and going about our lives, Josh and I started to work towards creating meals we could share that would satisfy us both.  We have started making almost all of our dinners a mix of vegan and non-vegan items that come together to make basically the same thing, only him eating the non-vegan items, of course.  It's been working really great for us.  So, that's something that I would like to share more in this space.

What does that look like, exactly?  Will I have tons of pictures of animal flesh and the like?  Well, no, I don't think so, because that stuff doesn't really appeal to me either.  However, I want to share with you guys the meals that we cook together, where meat or cheese is part of the options involved.  There may be photos where you see an assembly line for burritos and there are non-vegan items in the shot, but I trust that my readers are more concerned about seeing the creative ways that Josh and I are sharing food and our home.

I think there are so many people out there that are in homes where they're the only vegans, and I want to tell you that it's not something you should apologize for.  It's a great opportunity to share your amazing food with the people that you love, and it's a chance to lessen the impact of your loved ones diets on animals and the planet.  The meals Josh and I have been cooking lately have a strong base in veganism, with just minor alterations that make them not vegan.  So, he ends up eating far more vegan items than not.  By creating a nice balance in our home, and meals we could truly enjoy together, it makes it far easier for me to know that this is a lifestyle I can maintain as we create a family.

A lot of these meals we make together in the kitchen, but there are nights that it's just one or the other of us cooking.  I may make veggie pot pies and throw his frozen chicken into one and my veggie chicken into the other.  That's life, it's not pure or perfect.  If that makes me not a vegan then I'm fine with that.  I still know that the beautiful biscuit, the veggies and gravy on his plate are vegan and we are sharing essentially the same meal.  Not all of our dinners are like this.  Josh still eats tons of vegan only dinners, but it's his choice to have the option not to.

I think I might come off as defensive because I know this could be a change for the negative for some of you.  I welcome your comments on the matter.  Do know that most recipes will still be strictly vegan, and I want to post about a lot more than just food.  I just felt that I wasn't sharing a huge part of my life, and that felt dishonest.  I always want this to be a place of realness.

We have started our journey of trying to conceive again after our miscarriage as well.  I haven't decided how much I'll share on the topic yet, but I do think it will be a presence this year.  I am learning that there is so much about trying to have a baby that people don't talk about, so let's talk about it!

I look forward to continuing to share my life with you this year, whatever that looks like.  I hope to get to some sort of regular posting schedule in the following weeks, so stay tuned!

13 comments:

  1. Hi Dana, I,m looking forward to your shared meals, as that is also my situation, and it is not always easy combining our meals. Life is about compromise. I try to eat as vegan as possible and often get irritated by vegans attacking eachother about being not being perfect enough. The way you handle it is far nicer. Keep it up. All the best.

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    1. Thanks, Martine! Veganism is at its base about compassion, even to each other. I think there is a movement of more compassionate plant eaters out there, we just have to be louder than the mean ones :)

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  2. Yay!! You know I'm in the same situation, so I would love to see your posts on interdietary cohabitation! Paul and I still don't really cook and eat together. We're on TOTALLY different schedules, and he doesn't really do meals like a regular person (ha!). He'll come home, make ramen, take two bites, and then decide to eat chips for dinner. Weirdo. Whatever. I've actually grown accustomed to not sharing meals, and I kinda like having all the leftovers for lunches throughout the week. :-)

    But anyway, I can't wait to see more posts from you. I've MISSED YOU!

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    1. When Josh worked at home, I would come home to find that he hadn't eaten all day, or one can of soup. He definitely eats more regularly now, but I can definitely relate to chips for dinner. I'm glad to be back, too! :D

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  3. You go girl! I have been a vegetarian for 2 years and this is my first month as a full vegan. (Partly due to your blog so thanks for helping make veganism approachable. All those vegan recipe blogs out there with the 500-hard-to-find-expensive-superfood-ingredient-recipes are beautiful to look at, but just make it seem too hard sometimes.) Anyway, my husband is still a meat eater but because he's pretty open minded and I do all the cooking, it's working quite well. He's happy to eat the vegan food I prepare most days and other days he will just cook a piece of fish or meat on the side. I don't think there's any shame in this. Do I wish he'd become vegan? Yes. But everyone has to make their own decision and at least he is eating A LOT less animal products now.

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    1. That's so awesome!! Congrats on going vegan, and I think you have a great attitude it. Thanks so much for your comment. I can't wait to share more food photos with you! :D

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